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Posted at 8:03PM on Dec 18th 2005 by A blaze of love

2. My mother likes Shaadi.com, she's always online.
I prefer CraigsList.

I blog on my life in New York and e-matchmaking on www.arrangeme.blogspot.com.

I am yet to come across a girl who sent across a feeler through an "uncle" or "aunty". But some
probably have. I would love to meet them and share stories.

Boys sometimes do express themselves the way mentioned by Priya. The rejection rate of this route is at an undocumented 73%.

Posted at 8:03PM on Dec 18th 2005 by Shareen

3. All the Answers about Wedding.

http://www.dinewedding.com

Posted at 8:03PM on Dec 18th 2005 by Wedding Man

4. Here I am a non-Indian guy who is in a loving relationship with a beautiful intelligent Indian girl. She is the daughter of a Hindu priest and has been groomed her entire life to be someone's wife. Our relationship consists mainly of hours and hours talking on the phone at night when her parents think that she is asleep. We see each other at work for a few moments every few days. We have managed to find 4 or 5 hours a week to be together in person mainly out of our area because to be seen together would be the end for her. Her parents have denied her the opportunity to become a US citizen so that they can threaten her with deportation to India if ever something like what is happening with me was discovered.

We both believe strongly against premarital sex and have not gone down that road, so the typical arguments against a purely sexually motivated love relationship are not valid (although it disgusts me to think of her giving that gift to a stranger instead of to each other). We have been together long enough to know that we do not want to be with any other person.

In spite of all of this she is so close to her family. With her father in such a public position there is no way that he would ever accept her choosing her own husband. Never would he accept a non-Hindu and definitely not a non-Indian. We dream of being together and having a life full of love and family, but it seems as if this is not to be. So she is faced with a horrible choice: her family or me. To choose her family means a life married to a man that she does not know or love, knowing all the time that the man she does is still waiting for her. To choose me is to alienate herself from her family, but if the choice was us not a day would go by that I would not pursue a relationship with them.

In a thought that is completely not Indian, I hope beyond hope that if they truly love her they will accept us and keep her. She is so giving and self sacrificing that she will likely give up all that matters to her in our relationship to follow the wishes of her parents, who coincidentally will not have to be forced into a marriage with a stranger, be forced to give themselves to this stranger physically, mentally and emotionally, to be forced to have children that will be raised in a family where their mother has sacrificed her independence, her ambitions and her emotions to please parents that are not willing to change their ways to see their daughter happy with the person that she loves.

I am trying to understand, and I am living each day trying to express my love to her in a way that will make it possible that there will be a choice and that she can choose us. Arraigned marriage, forced pairing, does affect people negatively by taking away all the freedom and choice that makes us different from plants. It subjects a girl to a life that is not hers, will rob me of the only person in the world that I have ever or will ever love, will rob her future husband of the gift of her entire heart, will rob her parents of ever having a relationship with their daughter where she does not secretly or overtly resent the decision that they have made for her, will keep her children from knowing the joy of being raised by parents that model the ultimate picture of devotion and love.

So tell me that this is right and I will never believe for a moment that that is the truth.

Posted at 8:03PM on Dec 18th 2005 by Michael

5. Michael, I am a Indian Hindu girl and i believe that if u love someone u should marry them. I think that what is happening to you is wrong and right somewhat. I've been to arranged marriages and love marriages. Some of the love marriages that I went to were interracial. I wish you luck with believing in your love story.

Posted at 8:03PM on Dec 18th 2005 by Sirisha Jala

6. Michael I think that u should not let your girl go. I am a Indian girl who is also a Hindu who was born in the US and i believe in love marriages and arranged marriages. I have seen both types of marriages work out. I wish you good luck on marrying the girl that you love.

Posted at 8:03PM on Dec 18th 2005 by Sirisha